I am so sorry about your wife. I don't know how I would cope if I lost Maxine. Now that we are both in our 70s I think about it more and more. Somebody has to die first.

As in your case Maxine and I settled out the big chores early on.

Me: Vacuuming & washing the kitchen floor, dishes, lawn mowing.

Her: shopping, laundry.

It all works out because I hate shopping and laundry, and she hates doing dishes and vacuuming. Neither of those things bothers me much. I listen to podcasts and audio books while I am vacuuming. We have been married 33 years.

Cooking is shared and I maintain her kosher practices even if she is not looking, out of respect for her traditions.

Happy wife, happy life.