The wrong kind can mess up your life, as my brother found out. If your fantasies would be illegal if worked up into porn, better step away. In his case the way he got caught was so staggeringly stupid — and here I’d thought he was the smartest of us . 20 months in prison, 3 years of sex offender probation, 10 years to life on the sex offender registry. Public shaming, divorced, ostracized by family. Except on my side, for some strange reason. My loyalty was not always returned.