We’ve had our ups and downs but we’re happy. I was in head-over-heals love but I knew that wouldn’t last. I figured the kind of person she is, she’d be good for me and I was right.
In my first time around we were totally hot for each other and married because we wanted to start a family. The totally hot for each other shit wore off and she found somebody else to be totally hot for, namely my best friend, and so my life became a bad country song.
But that was 40 years ago. My dad once said only marry if you think you would like living with that person even if you did not love them. He was right. My first wife was a total lunatic. This time, we still love each other but I think she’d be cool to live with even if I did not love her.
But to your point, I agree, don’t tell people they should get married, especially if you are unhappy with it yourself. That just seems idiotic.